Why Marriage Matters

Why is marriage such a hot topic? Because marriage matters.

  • As more Pennsylvanians consider what it means to allow same-sex couples to join in civil marriage, you may have questions about what it means and how it works.
  • We hope that you’ll spend some time here getting the facts and listening to the voices of real Pennsylvania couples from across the state talking about why marriage matters to them.

Why does marriage matter to same-sex couples?

  • Same-sex couples want to marry for similar reasons as anyone – to make a lifetime promise of commitment and responsibility to the person they love. To be a family and to protect your family.
  • Marriage is one of the few times where people make a public promise of love and responsibility for each other and ask our friends and family to hold us accountable.
  • Every gay and lesbian person is part of someone’s family.  No member of anyone’s family should have to face discrimination where they live, at work, or when they hope to marry the person they love.

Freedom means freedom for everyone.

  • The freedom to marry the person you love is a basic freedom that should not be denied to anyone.
  • Liberty and the right to pursue happiness are core American values. We are all created equal under God with the same rights, responsibilities, and freedoms.
  • If adults can pay taxes, vote, serve in the military, start a business – then we should not judge, and grant them the freedom to marry the person they love.

It’s as simple as the Golden Rule.

  • Singling out one group of people for unfair treatment by not letting them marry the person they love is not how we do things in Pennsylvanian.
  • No Pennsylvanian should be told it is illegal to marry the person you love.
  • Allowing same-sex couples to marry would say to our children and grandchildren that Pennsylvanians believe in treating others as we would want to be treated ourselves.

Allowing committed same-sex couples to get married does not change the meaning of marriage.

  • All couples who marry in the United States must get a license for a civil marriage, usually at a courthouse or city hall. These civil marriages would also be available to same-sex couples.
  • Proposals to allow civil marriage for same-sex couples also protect clergy and religious institutions’ right to refuse to perform marriages inconsistent with their religious beliefs.

What’s next for marriage in Pennsylvania?

  • Independent polling of Pennsylvania voters shows us that a significant portion of Pennsylvania voters are still grappling with this issue and trying to decide how they feel. It is time for a grassroots public education campaign in Pennsylvania to move the hearts and minds of Pennsylvanians.
  • Together, we’ll build the campaign we need to move marriage forward and spark a dialogue with our friends, neighbors and family about the importance of marriage for same-sex couples.